I hear this often in my work with clients: “I’m stuck.” Their distress over this phrase lingers deep. The feelings of hopelessness often becomes crippling and then begins this cycle of behaviors that repeat. Feeling “stuck” in behaviors that do not serve us can feel defeating. The feelings of defeat lead to feelings of hopelessness and helplessness. Inevitably, depression surfaces and takes ahold of our lives. Depression can look differently for people. Some may become lethargic, others may gain/lose weight. Most, isolate, while others seek solace in drugs and alcohol.
You may be wondering, how can one change this? How can one become un-stuck? As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I’ve been trained in methodologies that can support clients to develop better habits. As a Christian, I know that spiritual healing is necessary for all my clients. Whatever my clients religious/spiritual beliefs may be, I know we have to seek spiritual healing. Romans 7:15, 18 says, ““I cannot understand my own behavior. I fail to carry out the very things I want to do, and find myself doing the very things I hate…for although the will to do what is good is in me, the performance is not.”
This is a familiar feeling for those desperately seeking to change their habits. Are you tired of hurting? Are you tired of getting the same result? The pain only increases and wounds unhealed will begin to bleed out. Let today be the day you choose to change the course of your life. Let this moment steer you towards a destination different than the one you’re going down. If you’re wondering how this can be done, here’s what it requires: surrender. To finally surrender ourselves to healing, we have to have three spaces opened up within us and all at the
same time: our opinionated head, our closed-down heart, and our defensive and defended body.